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Dad met my 10 year old friend “Danielle” two months ago when I threw a birthday party for her. He and Danielle have since entered into a secret relationship. Problem is, Danielle tells Dad about things that I’ve confided in her over the years, and he comes back to me with everything she’s told him.
Dad has been separated for 14 years and Danielle insisted she wouldn’t date him under these circumstances, but she did. From the start, my relationship with my dad is even worse, and my long friendship with Danielle has been ruined because I know I can’t trust her. Dad spends all of his time with her and her child now and hasn’t started bonding with me or her own grandchildren, which has been my life story, and my friend knows that. Abby, am I selfish? What do you think i should do – MORE THAN A REWARD IN ARKANSAS
DEAR MORE: I don’t think you are selfish. You have good reason to be hurt and disappointed. Your father remains true to his character, but your friend has betrayed your trust. You may need the help of a licensed therapist to go further, and that’s what I recommend you do.
Believe me, you have my sympathy. But you can’t change your dad or Danielle. However, you can change the way you react to it, and a therapist will help you do it faster than you can on your own.
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend is 31 and always goes to his mom’s and stays overnight even though we live less than 15 minutes away. He knows this upsets me, yet every time she asks him to spend the night, he leaves. He left our kids at home alone while I worked overnight because it was his birthday.